What would you do if you if a text from your adult son, who lives 600+ miles away, woke you up at 6 am asking for his social security number?
We asked him to call. And then I called him — no answer.
For 30 minutes I gathered information – I reviewed our shared bank account information, got on facebook and instagram to look for posts and looked to see if I had any phone numbers or passwords for accounts. I was 95% certain he lost his phone and maybe his wallet too.
I started praying for his safety.
After an hour I got a call from his phone. The music was so loud I couldn’t hear well, the person on the phone kept saying, “Mom.” I told him to call when he found a quiet place.Here’s what I thought to do (as my panic grew):
FIND HIS PHONE: I tried to locate the phone with the FIND MY PHONE app. It found the phone for about 30 seconds and it was 3 hours away where he lives. Then, the locator shut off and, then, his itunes password changed, at that very moment.
FREEZE HIS DEBIT CARD: Since I am on his bank account I could do this.
MESSAGE FACEBOOK FRIENDS: I didn’t know who to call, he has been living on his own for 2 years and just changed living arrangements. I messaged 8 of the most recent people that he had posted, focusing on names I had heard him mention.
SUSPEND HIS PHONEand called Verizon to put phone on LOST/STOLEN list, both reversible, in case I was a crazy mom.
EMAIL HIM (this was a mistake): I thought he might have a computer with him and told him all my steps so far, I still had no idea where he was. I got an email back about an hour later….this email came from his phone.
SET HIS PHONE TO WIPE when it re-connected to the internet, after that email from the phone, I knew that he was definitely separated from his phone.
CHANGE PASSWORDSon the passwords I could access- itunes, bank account.
GUESShis gmail password and got in and changed it — there I learned that his Credit Card company was suspicious of gas and Wal-Mart charges. That email had been read. – I tried to respond to say those were not Chris charges…but I didn’t know his CC user name and password.
CANCELLEDDebit card and then credit card once I got his log in info.
RE-MESSAGE FACEBOOK FRIENDS : Once I knew he was safe, I contacted all 8 people to let them know he was found.
4 1/2 hours after the 6 am text I got a phone call from my son – he had been robbed, he was ok. We got his credit card log in information and cancelled the credit card too.
We learned a lot here and will soon post a list of things I want to be ready to do in an emergency.
I WILL NEVER LOOK AT TEXT MESSAGES THE SAME AGAIN.
I WILL ALWAYS BE A MOM AND NEED TO KNOW WHO TO CONTACT.
We did River House stuff with Casey as she visited on her way back from a Spring Break in Big Sky, Montana. She said that she would be happy to spend the day with us doing house stuff…….Oooookayyyyyy. She did get off easy, as Jenny spent her entire Spring break week listening and looking at River House stuff.
We visited the kitchen place, looked at potential floor options, talked to our builder, and visited Eden, the interior door and trim supplier/finisher showroom. It was an all day adventure, driving in countryside and on roads we’ve never been on before.
Mom ; “…Oh. Oh, wrong turn, you just added 10 minutes to the drive time,” Dad; “ What? I’ve only been driving for 30 seconds…..maybe I can turn around?”
We asked her thoughts on interior colors and textures and she said, “I’m going to take the long way around to answer that question.” –15 minutes later, Dad; “….did you ever answer the question?” Casey: “ Oh Dad.” —- Casey, we Love YOU!
Once boiled down, her thoughts were really helpful. She asked a question about the “feel” we are looking for; Do you want a home with a warm wood feel or a place that has splinters? Said differently, an elegant look or a rustic cabin look. The description made me laugh and fits perfectly.
She also suggested that whatever is stained or looks darkest will be what is eye catching — we are thinking about Hickory kitchen cabinets, knotty Pine ceiling, clear Pine interior doors and trim, and likely a vinyl tile floor.
A flurry of activity that doesn’t really show movement yet. Work is happening in a combination of Activity and Stillness.
Our goal — get a final sketch to be officially drawn. .
February 19 – A home meeting over dinner. Angie came to us and we worked on her version 4, some priorities are becoming clearer to us as we talk.
Then, some initial engineering for the beam along the river, trusses and floor joists. We want open space with a wall of windows, among other things. Should it surprise us that the beam might need to be 24″? The recommended approach just looks complicated. Intuitively we feel we need to simplify, so Russ drew a new floor plan minus the bonus room as an option. It feels better to me. We will talk this week about the truss, joist and beam costs from version 4 to spur more conversation and a decision about which option to pursue..
March 4 and 5 – A visit to the Pittsburgh Home Show. The joy was time with Jenny, she started Spring Break. Two nights at the Courtyard, two partial days looking at doors, skylights, kitchens, floors, etc. We got a little clearer on what we want for the house and ate good food downtown.
March 10 – A visit to the Kitchen Designer was fun and informative. The best part was I learned there were samples of the flooring we are starting to get serious about.
This week we’ll meet again with Angie and Darwin, can’t wait. I imagine myself sitting in the finished house, enjoying the river view.